Release negative emotions

How to release negative feelings

 Dealing with difficult times. Life has changed so much for all of us, we have been through so much in the year of 2020,  almost a year of uncertainty and rapidly changing times. A lot of people working from home, some have no work as an outcome of this pandemic. So many different circumstances from loneliness, isolation economic loss and health issues. It has been a real test for all of us we can find ourselves struggling with stress. You may not feel like being ……..

..motivated about life or even thinking about what the future holds. More and more people are feeling tired of the situation and feel they can’t focus and find themselves procrastinating and the days are flying by. This is completely understandable and I would say quite normal. When anyone goes through a life changing situation there are a lot of emotions to be processed, feelings of sadness and grief can really make it a rollercoaster of a journey. I just want you to know if you are feeling this way, please know you are not alone. I am in contact with many clients that are going through the same motions, of tiredness, grief, frustration, anger and sadness to name just a few. We are all energetic beings and sensitive souls, some of us feel other peoples emotions too. Emotions are energy in motion. When you feel like you are at the negative end of the emotional scale, allow this to be, give yourself time to process, sit with the emotion, take some time out. It’s ok not to be ok. Once you have processed the feelings you will feel lighter. Below is a way to process negative emotions.

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How to process negative feelings and emotions.

  • Firstly its ok to have negative emotion, because it’s the contrast, without it we wouldn’t know what it was to feel positive and to know how we want to feel.
  • So sit quiet and ask yourself what one word explains my emotion, it might be tired, frustration, anger or sadness, it is normally the first word which comes to mind. Try naming that feeling.
  • Allow yourself to feel the way you do, sit with it.
  • Now you may feel you want to blame something outside yourself for feeling this way, a person or a situation. Do your best not to, but know it is perfectly natural to want to do this.
  • Accept  your emotion and take ownership of it. Allow yourself to know this is perfectly natural and understandable. Allow it to be there and take responsibility for it, now you are processing it. This is brilliant the more you can be comfortable with your negative emotions the easier it becomes to navigate your way through them and the stronger you become you are built with great resilience.

It’s good to be grateful for the emotion that came up, you can even thank the emotion for being there this gives a new perspective of that emotion which allows you to transcend it. After this you then you can choose the emotion you want to feel. This puts you in the driving seat of your internal ‘satnav.’ You have the power to change your thoughts, the more you become the observer of your thoughts and learn to process them the more resilient you become. 

Other ways to help you process emotional feelings.

  • Take a walk in nature
  • Any form of exercise is good
  • Treat yourself to a long soak in the bath with some lavender scents.
  • Spend some time having fun with children or animals.
  • Get creative or spend sometime doing something you are passionate about.
  • Meditate 
  • Breath work 
  • Talk to someone

Things to try and avoid:

  • Alcohol  or other means of escape
  • Bottling up your feelings
  • Holding on to your negative feelings
  • Snack foods 
  • Getting in conflict
  • Maybe social media just temporary

Where do the negative emotions come from?

Well we have 70,000 to 120,000 thoughts in a day, just in the minute you have had 300 thoughts.

You can’t stop your thoughts they happen with or with out you. Most of these thoughts are habitual, the same thoughts day in day out. The thing is the thoughts in your head are not you, it’s all the information you have gathered over your years on this earth. 

The very thoughts we have turn into emotions as we begin to feel our thoughts. The same for positive emotions we have like, joy, passion excitement. We first have a thought then that translates into a feeling. That feeling gives us a reaction in our body. I’m sure you remember getting excited about an event or nervous about a situation and those feelings that happen. Your brain doesn’t know the difference between a thought or something happening in realtime. Know that you can choose what thoughts you want to think. You really do have the power over your emotions and reactions.

Other ways to help you process emotional feelings.

  • Take a walk in nature
  • Any form of exercise is good
  • Treat yourself to a long soak in the bath with some lavender scents.
  • Spend some time having fun with children or animals.
  • Get creative or spend sometime doing something you are passionate about.
  • Meditate 
  • Breath work 
  • Talk to someone

Things to try and avoid:

  • Alcohol  or other means of escape
  • Bottling up your feelings
  • Holding on to your negative feelings
  • Snack foods 
  • Maybe social media temporary if you can
  • getting into conflict

 Conclusion

We need both negative and positive emotions.

Some positive emotions;

  • Love
  • Happiness
  • Joy 
  • Passion
  • Excitement
  • Satisfaction 

  Common negative emotions;

  • Frustration 
  • Fear 
  • Anger
  • Annoyance 
  • Loneness 
  • Sadness 

Looking at the negative emotions, are these emotions or feelings you want to feel? Probably not, why would you? They don’t feel good. The positive emotions are more preferable of course and we need these to thrive in the world. 

Although the negative emotions do not feel good we do need the contrast to feel the good emotions, with out them would the positive emotions still feel good?

Negative emotions are there for our own survival  they help us grow and evolve.

For example fear serves us to protect us from danger. With out it where would you be? You might put yourself at risk of harm.

What happens if we do not deal with our negative emotions?

Over time the emotions will build up as energy stored in your body and this could lead to illness (headaches, migraines, depression, stomach problems,) mental exhaustion can lead to breakdown.

I like to metaphorically describe it as the messy draw in the kitchen. Nearly everyone has got one of those draws with all sorts of bits and pieces. Imagine your thoughts and emotions that are not dealt with you keep just shoving them in the messy draw, because you don’t have the time to deal with them, and something else happens. Over time you keep popping things in your messy draw it becomes heavy and almost bursting at the seams. You might go to open the draw one day and the front falls off or it falls apart and all the stuff comes flying out and explodes all over the kitchen floor. Thats why it is important to deal with them as and when they arise. Over time you become more clearer and able to release negative thoughts easier and easier. It becomes a natural response.

What have negative emotions have you been holding onto?

Do you think you can sit with your emotions and process them?

Have you got any ideas you wish to share, which has helped you?

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